The Power of Influence in Your Home!

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As a mother and wife of 5 beautiful children and one granddaughter, I am aware of the power of influence that my presence have in both my home and my marriage. But in this post, I want to focus on my influence as a mom.

My awareness has grown ever so deeply as I watched my 5 kids mimic me in our everyday interaction. My husband often tells me, “they get that from you”and I can not deny it as I hear them speak, they sound just like me. I want you to know, I have days when I am not always displaying Christ like behavior.

We are not talking about using foul speech and deliberately acting out of character but there are days when I loose my patience and my voice get elevated. Ok y’all, lets be real, when I yell. My kids are taking in everything I display in front of them. I should know better right! This is not an excuse for my behavior because I am past the age of accountability and I fully take responsibility for my own actions, but I am doing what was past down generationally. That’s right my mother yelled and all of my sisters have yelled in the heat of the moment. But that is no excuse for me.

I notice when I am feeling overwhelmed or out of control, I use my elevated voice to be heard. I constantly ask myself what am I teaching my children by displaying such emotions. I am constantly in prayer about this character flaw because I do know it is influencing my environment and not for the positive.

 There are 2 scriptures that I mediate on to help me keep my emotions in check . Those 2 scriptures are Proverbs 14:29 People with understanding control their anger; a hot temper shows great foolishness and Proverbs 22:24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered.

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You guys, my kids ages are 2, 4, 5, 10 and 26. My granddaughter is 7. It is a never dull moment at my house, we are a loud family. I have 6 girls and 1 boy in my environment and there are a lot of emotions and personalities going on. I love my kids so much and wants nothing but the best for them. My husband says, I am too hard on myself.

Moms, I do think we are to hard on ourselves. We are the incubator in our environment. Not to discredit our husbands, but I believe we are way more emotionally invested in the care, support, love and protection for our kids emotional wellbeing. But I do know God can give them much more love and protection than I can. So when I mess up, I also influence them by going to them and sincerely apologizing and asking them to forgive mommy.

My goal is to make sure I keep a peaceful and fun environment for my kids to feel loved and thrive. I intentionally work on keeping my environment at home very positive. My kids ears are sensitive to wrong words spoken in their environment and they will tell you it a minute, do not speak those kinds of words to me and over me. I guess I have influenced them to speak nothing into the atmosphere that they do not want to see come in. Although I know I am not perfect, I do have a high standards for myself when it comes to giving my family the best love and care that is within my power.

I am aware that my kids are watching me because they remind me often by saying, “Mommy you did that or you said that.” Scriptures tell me and my husband that our children are a gift from the Lord and they are a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior so is children of the youth. I don’t know about you, but I have a great obligation to both God and my children. He blessed me with these wonderful blessing and just like the mighty skilled warrior, I can shoot my arrows by making sure I follow Gods instruction on how to raise them and aim them in the direction of their bullseye. Just know  that what ever we choose to speak in our environments and over our children are forming their characters and shaping their future. As an influencer, and their mom, it is my responsibility to make sure I keep them in an environment that is biblical sound, healthy, loving, stable, positive and forgiving. What I am realizing is, it is not so much what we teach them that matters, but what I actually live out and do in front of them that has the most impact!

It is not always whats being taught but what is being caught!

Coach Angie!

http://www.noboundariesbtc.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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My Name is Angela Ewharekuko, also known as Coach Angie. I am the Founder of No Boundaries Breakthrough Blog which was birth out of a desire to see women and girls have a relationship with God, own and walk in their authentic power, live in their brilliance, find their voice, connect to their genius, live on purpose, profit from their passion and live a happy and fulfilled life. Women it is time for you to arise! It is time for you to create the life you were destined to live. God created me to partner with him in helping women and girls recognize their brilliance. He wanted you to know that you can create an amazing, confident, happy and beautiful life. It doesn't matter what happened in your past, you can start right now creating a beautiful life for yourself. A life where you wake up happier everyday. A life where you are truly loving and enjoying your responsibilities as being a beautiful confident extraordinary woman, wife, mom, domestic diva, businesswoman, teacher and an influencer. But in order for you to create this beautiful life, You have to be your own advocate! There is a warrior aspect of being happy but you have got to fight for it! Let me help you to breakthrough to a happy beautiful life! I am a Christian, wife, a mother of 5 and I have 1 granddaughter. I talk about all things relating to women and girls. Some of the topics of discussions are; Breakthrough to a Better Life: self care, speaking life, people pleasing, working out, healthy eating, journaling, love list and more Breakthrough to a Bigger Dream: purpose, passion, visualization, vision boards, goals, abundance mindset, journaling, faith, belief, authenticity, networking, branding, fears, marketing, ask for the sale, discipline, Breakthrough to a Balanced Home: parenting, schedules, meals, clearing the clutter, cleaning routines, atmosphere, discipline, management system, vacations, chores and more. Breakthrough to a Peaceful Homeschool: curriculum, encouragement, schedules, removing clutter, field trips, co-ops, time management, multiple children, meals times, extra curriculum activities, room tour, organization, teaching style, your best homeschool tools, daily routines and more. Breakthrough to better marriage: love, unity, faithfulness, boundaries, communications, intruders, romance, date night, support, encourage, forgiveness, loyalty, respect, cherish and more. Breakthrough for the Unmarried Lady: purpose, focus, self-care, declare your season, sanctification, forgiveness, enjoy your company, toxic relationships, emotional baggage, love list, journaling, removing clutter and more.

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