Ladies you are allowing people, things and circumstances to steal your joy. It is my greatest desire to see women happy, whole and living a beautiful life while receiving their breakthroughs.

Happiness is always a choice. But some ladies are dealing with strongholds that is keeping true happiness from shining through. The Bible say the joy of the Lord is your strength and you need your strength to take care of yourself, your family and your purpose! Your strength is what keeps you going.

One of my intentions that I’ve set for my for myself is to keep my joy no matter what! I actually wrote an article about it titled Living An Intentional Life In Your Heart!

I think you and I need to find out what it means to be truly happy, so let’s look up the definition of happy and then we are going to delve into the Bible to see what God says about being happy, joyous and elated!
Dictionary.com defines happy as :

1. delighted, pleased, or glad, as over a particular thing:
   (to be happy to see a person.)
2. characterized by or indicative of pleasure, contentment, or joy:
   (a happy mood; a happy frame of mind.)
3. favored by fortune; fortunate or lucky:
   (a happy, fruitful land.

Some people happiness comes from seeing a certain person. Which also lets me know that they can lose their joy when they don;t see a certain person they are close to and they can loose their joy when they see a person because of offense in their heart towards that person.

Acquiring things makes people happy as well, which tells me that your happiness can be altered if you do not acquire certain things in your life.

Some people happiness comes from being favored by fortune. Which tells me when you do not have wealth or money it could alter your state of happiness because it is based on you having the money and possessions.

Some people happiness comes from pleasure. They look for things that make them feel good. This too can alter your happiness because if no one is telling you how fabulous you are and how beautiful you are then you are not happy, or if you are not always doing something, you feel like your life is boring and unfulfilling.

But I love the 2nd definition of happiness. Some people are happy because of their frame of mind and happy mood.

Contentment and joy are not based on anything external and comes from within.

This is where God lives in your heart! This is the happiness that I intentionally strive to live everyday! This happiness is based on having a relationship with God and having a grateful heart.

This kind of happiness does not look outside of itself to be happy. It is not based on materials things, money, or other people. This kind of happiness is in God. It is where God lives.

Misery loves company but you be so happy that you don’t get an invitation!

There will be situations in your life that wants to rob you of your joy but you have to fill yourself up everyday with doses of love, joy and peace. Wear your happy like a crown, so when misery sees you, it knows instantly you are not going to be the guest list.

Lets read what the Bible says about happiness!

Proverbs 15:13 ESV A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed. When you are not happy it crushes your spirit and it shows on your face. People can tell when you are having issue with your heart. You don’t genuinely look happy.

Proverbs 17:22 ESV A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Being happy is healing to your body and spirit. But a crushed spirit dries up the bones. That is why it is said that some diseases are brought on by unforgiveness and bitterness of the spirit.

I love what Ecclesiastes 3:12 ESV reads, it says, “I perceived that there is nothing better for them than to be joyful and to do good as long as they live.”

Look ladies, life is to grand to be living it in a unhappy and unfulfilled state. Solomon writes that he has done everything under the sun and he perceived after trying everything and doing everything, that there is nothing better than for a man to be happy and do good as long as they live.

Some woman unhappiness comes from trying to control someone else’s situation that has nothing to do with them. We inject ourselves in people lives trying to control others circumstances by over helping and giving to much.

Ladies we have to allow grown people to be grown. You are loosing your happiness because they are choosing to do what works best for them and what thy want to be doing rather it is right for them or not, they are making their own choice, and because they are not choosing to do it your way, you are loosing your joy.

You can only control you and you alone. Take your happy back. Get your hands out of other peoples affairs.

Ladies this scripture tells us that we should be happy, joyous, elated content with our own responsibilities.

Ecclesiastes 3:13 ESV reads, “Also that everyone should eat and drink and take pleasure in all his toil—this is God’s gift to man.”

How do you do that? I get happy and grateful for the role I get to play in helping my husband fulfill his role as the leader, protector and provider in our home by serving him in what ever capacity I need to serve him in and the same thing goes for my children. The Bible says in Matthew 23:11 The greatest among you will be your servant. It is not the person that is getting served that is the greatest, but the one who gets to serve! A different kingdom.

Now, do I need breaks sometimes? Yes I do! And do I need help sometimes? Yes I do! Is it always perfect, no it is not. But it is a privilege, that I get to serve my family. It is a privilege that I get to partner with God in helping his daughters get whole in every area of their life. I am so elated that God picked me to share in this awesome work.

Their is nothing more satisfying than to see my family having what they need to be healthy physically, spiritually and emotionally! There is nothing more satisfying than to serve the women and girls that I am called to.

Happiness is a mindset, you have to choose to be happy no matter what! You can find joy in your everyday routines. But first you have to stop complaining about it and find the good in everything in your life.

Let go of the baggage, the attitude, the holding people hostage within your heart! Stop it, people are going to be people. People are not God. People are going to let you down. So get your faith out of people and put it in God.

Get your head out of the air, you are not perfect, so why are you trying to make everybody else perfect. God forgives you when you mess up. Forgive others and move own. People will never be able to measure up to your standards because you can not measure up to your standards.

You are not doing yourself a favor by holding ought in your heart toward anyone and what is sad is that the person your are holding hostage don’t even have a clue! They are going on wearing their happy crown and living a life of joyous abundance and you are using all of your energy to excommunicate them out of your life mentally.

Half of the people that you are holding hostage never done a thing to you. You are holding them hostage because of what someone told you about them, that might not be true! There are always two sides to every story. It is time out for petty distractions. Your life is too precious to loose your joy over anyone.

Psalm 118:24 ESV This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.

God wants you to wake up every single day, being glad that you get to enjoy his blessing and love on his people. You do not have time to waste on cattiness. There is a higher calling that is calling you to come up higher where Gods thoughts are and where Gods ways are. Listen to the happy song and get happy!

When you are filled with Gods joy, love and happiness he gives you peace and security. Check out these last 2 scriptures about having a happy heart.

Psalm 16:9 ESV Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure.

Isaiah 55:12 ESV “For you shall go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and the hills before you shall break forth into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.
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