Hello extraordinary single lady, this is the 3rd principle of “6 PRINCIPLES SINGLE LADIES NEED TO HAVE IN PLACE TO ATTRACT BOAZ” if you are reading this blog post without learning about the 1st and 2nd principle, I suggest you stop and read the 1st and 2nd principles single ladies need to have in place to attract Boaz.
The 3rd Principle is “Letting Go of Baggage”
Imagine carrying a duffle bag, a purse, shopping bags, and 2 big piece of luggage while walking through the airport. That would weigh you down, right? It would be to overwhelming to carry all of that travel gear by yourself. Your shoulders would be hurting, you would be out of breath, it would slow you down majorly, and you would even start to feel like you are going to pass out.
That is why they provide carts that you can pay for to help you carry your luggage. But some people do not want to spend the 5.00 to relieve themselves of the stress of carrying all of that stuff through the airport so they struggle, their back ache, they look exhausted, they are tired and they do not get to enjoy the travel experience because they are weighed down with too much stuff.
Single lady, this is what happens to you when you will not and do not allow yourself to forgive your past, a bad relationship from your past, yourself for not always making the right decision or standing up for yourself, your parents, friends, family, someone who wrongly violated your innocence, the people from an old job, and God.
It weighs you down and slow your life down. Unforgiveness is poisonous to your whole being. You experience some of the same symptoms that the people who carry the physical baggage experience, but because you carry it longer than their temporary traveling gear, it will start to effect your bones and your health.
If you are a person that struggles with unforgiveness read these scriptures to learn what the Bible says about unforgiveness, and how unforgiveness can effect your health, prayer and your happiness.
When your heart is full of bitterness, hatred, strife, and unforgiveness it keeps you in bondage to the person you are holding the unforgiveness towards. That person has control over you. Because you are feeling your thoughts up with them often. You keep playing that same tape recorder of what they done to you over and over again.
When you tell the story about what they have done to you, you tell it just like it happened yesterday. You remember everything they said to you, and how it happened to you 10 years ago. Now that is having control over your mental state. When you tell the story, you feel those same emotions just like the day it happened to you.
This unforgiveness is keeping you depressed, lonely, unhappy, sick, untrusting, bitterness, self pity, in bondage to emotional eating, from unanswered prayer and
It is time to let it go!
Mark 11:25 – And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
No longer can you allow this sin to rule over you because it is trying to destroy your future. When you forgive the person you are doing it for your own sake, your own happiness and for your future.
Thoughts are powerful, that is why you need to gain control over them, because they are shaping your future.
You are asking for God to constantly forgive you, but you are refusing to forgive others. God says in
Matthew 18:23-35 “Therefore, the Kingdom of Heaven can be compared to a king who decided to bring his accounts up to date with servants who had borrowed money from him. In the process, one of his debtors was brought in who owed him millions of dollars. He couldn’t pay, so his master ordered that he be sold—along with his wife, his children, and everything he owned—to pay the debt. “But the man fell down before his master and begged him, ‘Please, be patient with me, and I will pay it all. Then his master was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his debt.
“But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant who owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment. “His fellow servant fell down before him and begged for a little more time. ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it,’ he pleaded. But his creditor wouldn’t wait. He had the man arrested and put in prison until the debt could be paid in full. “When some of the other servants saw this, they were very upset.
They went to the king and told him everything that had happened. Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you? Then the angry king sent the man to prison to be tortured until he had paid his entire debt. “That’s what my heavenly Father will do to you if you refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters from your heart.”
I know it was very painful what happened to you, but you have escaped it, now escape it out of your thoughts. It is ok to forgive them.
Say this prayer, Lord I forgive myself for any wrong choices that I have made in my past, I forgive myself for not taking care of myself, I forgive myself for not being perfect, I forgive everyone and everything that has ever hurt me and rejected me, I forgive you God for not protecting me from being violated from others, I forgive all the people that has hurt me or cause harm to me, I forgive my parents for not loving me the way I needed to be loved, I forgive my old job and the people that was at that job, I forgive any past relationship an friendships that have wronged me, hurt me, or rejected me in Jesus name Amen.
Now what is going to happen, as you are on your forgiveness journey, you are going to have those old thoughts trying to come back and get you to think on what happen to you in the past. You will have to catch those thoughts before they enter into your mind. When you have realized that you have allowed them to enter, you will have to speak to those thoughts and say out loud, I have already forgiven myself, God and those people. I reject you out of my thoughts. Then you start singing uplifting song, to replace the negative thoughts so you can continue to think on great things.
Baggage is not just unforgiveness, Baggage comes in all kinds of forms like jealously, envy, Gossip, strife, competitiveness, comparison, rejection, addictions and sexual sins.
I will touch on these subjects in the next blog post because I realize that I will not be able to cover these subjects in one single blog post. These subjects are dead weight and can stop you from entering into the promises for our life. Some people have never been taught on how to deal with these issues. They will try and over take you if not dealt with. I want to expose them and how they can stop you from feeling confident, creating a beautiful life, prevent you from walking into your future and hinder your prayers from being answered.
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