6 Principles Single Ladies Need To Have In Place To Attract Boaz/Cont. Principle #3

Single Ladies this is the end of principle #3,”LETTING GO OF BAGGAGE.” This is a 6 part series of “6 PRINCIPLES SINGLE LADIES NEED TO HAVE IN PLACE TO ATTRACT BOAZ.” I’ve taken longer on Principle #3 because there were so many layers to this principle, that I had to give each baggage its own blog post.

Please click the links to read the previous principles.

Principle #1, What you need to be and what he needs you to be

Principle #2, Enjoying your own company

Principle #3, The baggage of bitterness, hatred, strife, and unforgiveness, 

Principle #3, The baggage of jealousy, envy, covetousness and strife

In this blog we are going to talk about,


“Sexual Sins and the Spirit of Lust and Seduction”

I would be remiss if I did not talk about the baggage of sexual sins and the spirit of lust and seduction. When I told God yes to partnering with him to help his daughters be made whole in every area of their life, I made a commitment to God, and there were certain assignments, I was given to expose the works of darkness. I wrote an article about “5 Ways to Overcome Any Addiction,” please take time to read this article because I will not cover it in this blog. If you are struggling with any addiction and want to get set free from sexual sins and the spirit of seduction read this article. It will be advantageous to your deliverance.

Before I get into this topic let us get the mind of God on this subject.

I Thessalonians 4 :1-8. We beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God,

For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God.

That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who hath also given unto us his holy Spirit.

The highlighted parts in pink are important because this is the will of God for single ladies. You never have to doubt again if that sexual relationship you are in is of God, because that is not his will for you according to scripture. Now, if you really want to know if this is a relationship God wants the both of you to pursue, stop having sex with him, and do it God’s way.

The #1 question you should ask yourself before pursuing any relationship with a man is, will this be a godly covenant? Does he have a true relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. Are we equally yoked? Just because you are having a sexual relationship with him does not mean you can not pursue a godly covenant with him now, but both parties must be willing to do it Gods way. Abstain from fornication until after you both have said I do.


I tried getting around writing on this topic but I felt like I would be robbing my sisters of the breakthrough that they really deserve. I escape the deadly sin of lust and was delivered from it. It was so freeing not to be bound with that sin anymore. I want the same for you. A lot of single ladies struggle with this sin. I am not writing to you because I had it all together in this area because I did not. I am writing to you to warn you just like the passage in the Bible talks about, how the rich man went to hell and wanted to go back and warn his brothers.  He did not have an opportunity to go back and warn his brothers.

Take heed today single ladies, God allowed me to escape it! I came back to expose it and help you to deal with it!

Lust is a deadly sin. It is not to be played with, but you would not know this unless you have been delivered from it. I want to see my single sisters delivered, I do not want the enemy taken you out prematurely and settling for less than what God ordained for you. One wrong encounter with the wrong person can end your life.

You never know you are in darkness, until you have seen the light, and you never know what real love is until God shows it to you, and you never know the grace that is on your life until you have escape from the snare of the fowler, and you never appreciate your life, until you have taken an aids test and past it if you have been promiscuous.

There are some things that are going on with single ladies in the Kingdom of God that has to be dealt with. Today if you just keep reading you will be delivered!

God wants his daughters whole. The enemy has been using single ladies to partner in his work against your sisters in Christ, against marriages, and against God’s leaders. Yes, I am talking about born again, tongue talking believers of the most high God and unbelievers alike.

Not another day will you be used to build the works of darkness kingdom. God wants to deal with this sin in a believer’s life. Both men and women but since I am writing to you Single Lady, today God is talking to you.


Some of you are struggling with lust and want to be delivered from it so badly, but do not know how to get free from this sin. Some of you are waddling in this sin and you know what you are doing is just flat out wrong, but you have built up a resistance to the things of God and just don’t care. Hopeful after reading this blog post your heart will be back open to the things of God and after He shows you how much He loves you and care about you. God wants you to have his best for your life.

A man knows the difference between a woman who wants attention and showing all of her goodies, from a classy confident woman who do not need that kind of negative attention. Yes, he will be drawn to you because you are enticing to him, but he will never commit to you but in the bed. He will be drawn to her because she has standards, leaving something to the imagination, she is classy and confident. She knows that she do not need to display her goodies to get attention. Her confidence and smile speaks for itself. She is mysterious to him and he wants to get to know her because there is something that is different and special about her. She is not like all the other women he is use to seeing, that exposes her body to get noticed.

Some ladies will do anything to feel loved. Lust is not love, but because you do not know what real love is, you substitute lust for love. You have to stop your self destructive behaviors. If you are a Christian then your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, but that lust addiction, is going to destroy you if you do not gain control of it. I am qualified to speak into your life because when I was a single Lady, I struggled with some of the same things. I want you to know, that I am not judging you. I want you to be free from every snare of the enemy. I want you to know what the Bible says about sexual sins and sins of the flesh. Some of you have made some spoken and unspoken covenant with the spirit of darkness, and they need to be broken.

Galatians 5:19-21 ESV Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God

Romans 13:13 ESV Let us walk properly as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and sensuality, not in quarreling and jealousy

2 Peter 2:2 ESV And many will follow their sensuality, and because of them the way of truth will be blasphemed

Roman 1-24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another

Roman 1-26 NLT That is why God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other

Stop those self-destructive behaviors that causes you to give your body to multitudes of men and women. Lesbianism (being involved sexually with another women), having orgies (multiple people having sex with each other all at the same time) masturbation (pleasing yourself sexual), adultery (involved sexual with a married man), porn (watching nasty movies) and every sin that have to do with sex and perversion are all against God intended design. You are using sex to medicate the pain of feeling unworthy and unloved.

All you wanted was attention and to be loved, accepted, wanted, cherished, valued, adored and you found a distorted way of obtaining it, and this thing has grown into an addiction. Some of you have said to yourself, I will never again feel the pain of rejection and now you are acting it out in all kinds of ways to get attention and be the girl that is on top. Some of you do not know how the words you’ve spoken entered you into a covenant agreement with the spirit of darkness.



Single ladies, who have a covenant with God should never be operating like others who do not know God, but it is happening. Christian woman who are married and single ladies are breaking covenant with God left and right. There has been a spirit of seduction that has been released in this generation. Look at who the worldly role models are and our Christian role models. They are embracing the red carpet, concerts, award ceremonies and everyday life wearing little to no clothes, showing their panties, showing breast, exposing their private parts and being bold and proud about it. The music and videos of the world is so sensual, fowl and seductive, no wonder way so many woman or dressing the way they are. The Christian community are trying to keep up with the world.

1 Timothy 2:9-10
Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness.

As covenant believers of the Lord Jesus Christ, we should not be patterning ourselves after the way the world dresses. 1 Timothy 2:9-10 says we should dress ourselves in the proper attire, modestly and discreetly. You should ask yourself before you walk out of the house, would God be pleased with what I am wearing. Woman are wearing enticing seductive clothing to get attention from anyone who wants to look.

Christian ladies are showing their breast, cleavage and panty liner. They are wearing too little dresses and shorts. They are wearing tight leggings and are not covering up their back side, of course men are going to look at you. Married men and single men a like. That was your intentions before you walked out of the door, to entice men. So don’t go and tell your friend that sister Lee’s husband was staring at you. Everybody is staring at you because of your immodest dressing.

Modesty: having or showing regard for the decencies of behavior, speech, dress, etc.; decent: a modest neckline on a dress.

We are coming to the house of the Lord with wrong motive and impure intentions. There is a spirit of seduction that has entered our congregations. Single ladies as well as married ladies are operating out of this spirit. God says we should live in the world but not part of the world.

Their is an attack on the leadership in our congregations, marriages and Christian marriages are not exempt. This spirit is destroying homes, breaking up congregations and causing the set men of God to destroy his marriage covenant and scatter the flock. There have been men of God that have fallen under this seductive seducing spirit. Married men and single men, and the devil is using woman to do it! I know men are luring woman as well, but my calling is to women. In Jesus Name! I claim back the wondering sister, I claim back the drifting sister, I claim back any of my sisters that is being used in a spirit of seduction.


1 Corinthians Chapter 7:1-21 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

We have a generation of covenant breakers and it is seeping into our congregations. Single woman and married woman are being busy bodies meddling in the covenant marriage relationships. Woman are trying to play innocent and are secretively trying to seduce married men with glances of stares, laughing and smiling, touching on men they do not have a covenant with. Prancing and walking seductively in front of him, trying to get noticed by him. These are woman who have a covenant with God. They are being purposeful and intentional but want others to believe in their innocences. You might have people fooled, but God sees and knows everything. This is happening in the our congregations.

Ladies the scripture speaks in Corinthians 7:1-21 that it is not good that a man touch a woman that he is not married to. But woman are the ones during the touching. It is woman that is violating covenants. The scripture teaches to avoid fornication let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Men are falling because the woman are making the connections by touching on men that are not their husband. Satan is subtle he comes in through a door least expected. It takes someone that is in tune with the Holy Spirit to recognize he subtleties because the Holy Spirit reveals all things.

Ladies you should not be touching on a man that is not your husband. Not on his back to say hello, or his arms, or with a hug and slightly rubbing your breast on him, not on his hands in a seductive manner. You should not touch him period! Use you words. We have all been taught to use our words. If you need to say hi, use your words and not your hands to do so. That will keep you out of trouble. I know some people can be touchy feely but if you as a Christian woman want to properly position yourself and keep your heart pure and clean before God use this approach.

Single ladies guard your thoughts, allowing lustful perverted thoughts to enter your mind about a man that is not your husband or that is someone else’s husband is a dangerous thing to be playing with. Because your thoughts create your reality and you would start acting out when you see that man and his wife. You would start to get envious of his wife who really have a covenant with him. You will be in sin because you are trying to interject yourself in a godly covenant marriage. If the man is not married, you will get jealous if you see that man with another woman and acting out towards her because in your mind you have built up this fantasy that you guys are a couple. You should not be fantasizing about any man that is not your husand.


God created sex to be enjoyed in a marriage relationship. A man married to a woman.

Proverbs 9:13-18 A foolish woman is clamorous: she is simple, and knoweth nothing. For she sitteth at the door of her house, on a seat in the high places of the city, to call passengers who go right on their ways. Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither: and as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him, stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant but he knoweth not that the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of hell

Proverbs 9:13-18 says a woman who entice and seduce married and single men, who are not their husband is simple minded, she knows nothing. A man can be at home with his family going the right path and because your heart is not right and that spirit of lust and covetousness have attached it self to her, she will have seduced him right out of his home.

But proverbs says that the man that is lured by her is simple minded too.

I look up simple minded and it means: artless; unsophisticated; simple hearted foolish; stupid. Single lady do you want to seen as this definition describes? Do you want to be a home wrecker?

Proverbs 9:13-18 also talks about when men go into her, that her guest are in the depths of hell. Single lady this scriptures tells me that you are working for the devil. God is saying any man that goes into you in this state, is going to the dead and hell. You are killing these men. Tell the devil you are no longer using my body as an avenue to lure men into hell.

Ephesians 5:5 For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God


Single lady, that is why you have to be built up on the inside. You have to allow God to make you whole so you would not settle for the counterfeit attention and love from a man not worthy of your heart. You have stop selling yourself short and love yourself enough to stop your self destruction ways. God wants to show you what real love is. He love you so much that he do not want you to settle. Always making your self second class and second rate. You never have to get any body sloppy seconds. God wants to give you your own husband who will dedicate his love, time and attention to you. But you have to first cleanse your heart and rid yourself of destruction behavior and allow God to make you whole inside. Tell yourself that you will not be part of Satan tactics against the kingdom of God. You are on God’s side, You are a kingdom builder! Rid yourself of this baggage. So when your Boaz shows up he will find you peaceful and drama free!

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Angela Ewharekuko is also known as Coach Angie. She is a certified Christian life coach, author, speaker and blogger. She loves teaching Christian Homeschool Moms, Homemakers and Wives to dominate clutter and make Homeschooling and Homemaking easy.

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