Ladies we finally made it to principle #4 which is
HAVING TRUE CONFIDENCE!
Please click the links in green to read the previous principles.
Confidence by dictionary.com means: full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing. A feeling of trust in a person or thing. 2. Belief in one’s own abilities; self-assurance .
True confidence comes only when you have faith in God, and faith in who God says that you are and what he created you to be, period. This is the foundation of true confidence.
I am going to keep this principle real simple for you, and if you can just believe it, your mindset will shift from what you thought confidence was, to having real and true confidence that came with you from the moment you were born.
In other words, if your confidence is in anything other than you knowing who you are in God and who God created you to be, it is false confidence.
True confidence is not based on your looks, race, color, hair, body shape, how much money you have, your educational background, how many degrees you have, what kind of car you drive, how big your house is, if you are married, if your are single, it is not based in how many kids you birth or what neighborhood you live in and how many business you own. These are the things that the world place there confidence in.
All of the things that I just named are external, and when your self esteem is wrapped around the external things, when they are taken away from you, your confidence and self-esteem are taken away as well.
“For I say, through the grace given to me, to everyone who is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think soberly, as God has dealt to each one a measure of faith.
Lack of confidence comes when you do not believe in your own abilities, when you do not believe in your own greatness, when you do not know the power that have been given to you by God. Lack of confidence comes when someone have said things about you that is contrary to the word of God or when you have thought and said things about yourself that is contrary to the word of God and you accepted it as truth. Lack of confidence comes when you think more highly of someone, than you think of yourself.
Lack of confidence comes when you think you are not beautiful, valuable, smart, intelligent and brilliant. Lack of confidence comes when you think you are not enough, when you do not love the body, personality, looks, your race, and the family you grew up in. Lack of confidence comes when you think others have more than you do and when the thoughts you have about yourself are negative.
Human beings are always trying to fix up the outside by accumulating external things and stuff to make ones self feel good, look good and to feel confident. It is the inside that really needs a makeover.
Just because you see people with a lot of nice material things, degrees and money, doesn’t mean they are confident people. Some of your most insecure people uses things to mask what they are truly feeling on the inside.
I hope I am not sounding like you should not have material possessions and if you do, that means you are not confident. That is not what I am saying at all. I have seen a lot of people who have stuff and degrees and wealth but the stuff do not have them. They do not place their identity in titles and things. You will never know what they have if someone did not tell you or if they did not reveal it to you.
So how do confidence comes in to play when you want to attract your Boaz or a man after God’s own heart who is worthy of your love and who wants to take your hand in marriage?
When a man sees you, he sees the God that is in you. If you do not have a relationship with God, I suggest you start developing one with him right now, Pray this prayer.
Confidence means to put trust in the power of something or someone that is reliable and trust worthy. It also means having trust and believing in your God given abilities. God is the only one in the entire world that is trustworthy and reliable. Since we are made after his likeness and image, we share the same attributes as God, therefore we can believe in the God that is inside of us..
Genesis 1:26-27, And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: 27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
Genesis 1:31 And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good
When sin came into the earth, men vision became blurred to his original design and he did things to look for meaning and to find fulfillment on the earth, and some men sought it in everything but God, so today I am going to introduce you to your original design and give you some tools that you can use to help you gain your confidence back or to help you to recognize what true confidence is.
Single Ladies, God says, that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by him. He also says, that everyone of your hairs are numbered and that you are more valuable than many sparrows. God says, you are made a little lower than the angels and you are crowned with glory and honor.
Psalm 139:14 NIV 14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
Matthew 10:30-31 Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground without your Father’s will. But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not, therefore, you are of more value than many sparrows.
Psalms 8: 4-6 What is man, that thou art mindful of him? and the son of man, that thou visitest him? For thou hast made him a little lower than the angels, and hast crowned him with glory and honor. Thou madest him to have dominion over the works of thy hands; thou hast put all things under his feet:
I looked up some very important words from the verses above, to let you know exactly what God had in mind, when he created you. These meanings alone, should change your mindset about yourself. If you can not be confident in anything else, be confident in what God says about you.
Valuable: having considerable monetary worth; costing or bringing a high price: having qualities worthy of respect, admiration, or esteem: of considerable use, service, or importance:
Crown: a wreath or garland for the head, awarded as a sign of victory, success, honor, a similar ornamental headgear worn by a person designated king or queen in a pageant, contest, etc.
Honor: honesty, fairness, or integrity in one’s beliefs and actions: high respect, as for worth, merit, or rank: such respect manifested: high public esteem; fame; glory: the privilege of being associated with or receiving a favor from a respected person, group, organization, etc.:
Glory: something that is a source of honor, fame, or admiration; a distinguished ornament or an object of pride:a state of great splendor, magnificence, or prosperity. A state of absolute happiness, gratification, contentment.
How do we get back to all of these beautiful things God orginally created us to be, after the world, our families, teachers, relationships, our own thoughts and friendships told us or showed us something different from our original design.
This is just a tip of what God had in mind when he created you, it would take a 100 blog posts to tell you who you are, so please search the scriptures and find out who God created you to be.
You were born on earth with gifting, talents, skills, purpose and originality. There is no one on planet earth exactly like you. There is no one in the world who have your finger prints. In fact, Psalm 139:13-16 says in
You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—and how well I know it. You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
It was God that created everything about you when you were born. You were perfect in Gods eye sight. All of your features were what God wanted you to have. He wants you to love what he created you to be.
If you are walking around with a damaged self image. All you have to do to change your self image and perception of yourself, is to change the way you are believing about yourself and replace it with God’s words and positive confession.
It is important that you do mirror techniques so you can change your perception of your self. If you do not love who God created you to be, how is someone else going to love the way God meant for you to be loved, and how are you going to love others the way they were meant to be love.
What is mirror technique? Mirror technique is when you look at yourself in the mirror and speak nothing but great things over yourself. You are using your own voice but God’s word and positive confession to prophesy to yourself and your future. You are also changing your self perception and developing confidence in God and yourself. I have include scriptures confessions by Joyce Meyer and Kyle Winkler. I have also included and a bonus positive affirmation, pick one or choose all and listen to them and say them daily.
Love is not based on performance, love is not based in things, love is not based on if you do everything right, when you based love in any of these things, you are sure to set yourself up for failure in all of your relationships, even your relationship with God. Your confidence will be very low. No one will ever measure up in your eyes, not even yourself. You will always find fault with others or think you are better than they are.
Self acceptance, forgiving yourself and loving yourself helps you to do the same for others. Having a relationship with the Heavenly Father allows you the grace not to be perfect and to forgive yourself for not being perfect. When you mess up it is ok, because you love yourself enough to know you are accepted by God and he loves you unconditionally regardless of your imperfections.
In return, you do not have to put on airs for anyone. You can be yourself and love who God created you to be. You can appreciate your gifts, skills and talents and you can appreciate others as well. You would value where you come from and what family you were born in. You would not be ashamed of who you are because you did not grow up as prestigious as others. You would not allow your past life to keep you feeling shame for the choices you’ve made out of a faulty belief system.
You will love all parts of your beautiful and wonderful self. If there is something that you can change do it, but you are not doing it so you can be accepted by others, you are doing because you love yourself and you want the best for yourself.
As you start loving yourself and being truly happy with who God created you to be and how God created you to look, you are going to walk with your head up high. Why not, my God said that you are a queen, you are valuable, your are royalty, your are worthy of honor and glory, you are favored, your are blessed, you are made in the image and likeness of God. Happiness is what he created you to be.
When you are confident, you smile a lot, because you have nothing to frown about. Even in your most challenging times you smile knowing God is working everything out for your good.
When you are confident you want to look your best. Regardless of your size, love all of your body. If you do not love your body yet, do the mirror technique until you can love it or until you can loose the weight you want to loose. I know we humans put a lot of attention on what others can see, but sometimes our outside body is a result of what is going on in our thoughts and heart. When we deal with the negative thoughts our bodies will line up. Our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit and we should keep our temple healthy because we can live longer to fulfill our purpose on earth. Plus, when we are working out and eating healthy it gives us a glow and helps us to feel good, energetic and strong.
When you are confident, you do not compete with others, because the same God that created them, created you. You know they were uniquely created with wonderful amazing talents, gifting and skills just like you. Everything God created is beautiful. You are not jealous of anyone because to be jealous of them, would be to be jealous of God. You appreciate everything that God created. You compliment and encourage others because to do so, you compliment and encourage yourself. Your style, the way you wear you make-up, the way you style your hair, your personality is what set you apart from anyone else. True confidence comes from having a healthy perspective about your self, others and God, knowing it is by the grace of God that we have what we have.
Whatever someone else have, you can obtain it too, if you put your faith in actions for it. When you see others doing well say so, be confident in the God that you serve knowing if he did it for them, he can do it for you. All it takes is that you use your faith, like they used theirs.
As a result of believing what God says about you, it will help you to become a more confident you.
When you your husband notices you, he is going to be attracted to the essence of you. He is going to be attracted to the God that is in your heart. He is going to be attracted to that inner glow that is saying I love who God created me to be, all of me, regardless of my perceived flaws because I am fearfully and wonderfully made by God.
Strive to be all that God created you to be. When you do, it would bring the blessings, degrees, prosperity, wealth, houses, cars, etc. You are now striving out of wholeness from a birthright that you were always meant to have.