I know sometimes we’ve blown it as moms and mom guilt can be real but today we are going to ignore that voice that’s telling us that you are not doing enough, you are messing up your kids life, you are failing them, you are stopping their dreams, you are a horrible mother, you are making your kids, your life. You are too over protective, you need to spend more time playing with them and less time cleaning or working, you need to be more organized, you are ruining their education and future, the list can go on and on.
While some parents do suck at parenting, we are not taking on these labels, not today. We are not perfect and yes we blow it sometimes, but as long as you humble yourself and apologize to your children and ask for forgiveness usually they are ready and willing to receive you with open arms. It might take some of your children longer to forgive but keep loving them until your relationship is restored.
The movie, “Like Arrows” was showing in the movie theater for only 2 days, my husband and I made it a priority to be in the theater opening night, and I am so glad we did, in my opinion, it was an eye opening, heart felt and life changing movie for all Christian parents. The reason why I said Christian parents, because it is a Christian movie, it is based on the Bible but even if you do not confess Jesus Christ as your savior please consider watching the movie or reading God’s word on parenting, it is the manual for child rearing.
Mom’s have one of the most important jobs in the world. Every human being on the planet evovled from the womb of a woman.
Nothing can be birth in the earth unless it is birth through you. Human life can not exsist unless a man and a woman produce it. That is how God designed it. Our world will cease to exsist without procreation of a man and a woman.
So, yes your job is very important. Every inventor, creator, doctor, teacher, mom, dad, scientist, business owner ect. Came from you. The opposite is true. Every person that’s full of hate, evil, abuser, psychopath, killer or anyone that’s want to hurt mankind came from you as well.
In order for a family, organization, society, country, neighborhood, church and community to grow a mom has to be present.
Our roles are so important, God intrusted us with his world! Wow, that is huge responsiblity. No wonder why we often feel the weight of the world on our shoulders, because it is.
We carry God’s torch. We have been entrusted with His most prized possession.
God gave us the ability to care, to love, to nuture, to build up, to teach, to influence, to communicate, to encourage, to inspire and to motivate.
Psalm 127:3-5 ESV
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
Your children are your reward from God. We (along side our husbands), can get a vision for our children and steer them in their purpose.
God in his infinite wisdom left instructions for us to raise our children. Some people say children did not come into this world with instructions but that is not true, they did come into this world with instructions. The Bible.
Rather you are a Christian mom that stays at home or a Christian mom that works outside the home, you have a huge responsibility to read your manuscript(the Bible) to get God’s idea on how children are suspose to be raised.
Many relationship with our children have been destroyed because we held on to beliefs passed down from generations to generations or we’ve adopted our own philosophy on how our children should be raised.
So I am here to set the record straight and help us as Christian moms to start a brand new chapter in raising our children. We are going to totally erase all mom guilt, let go of the past and start a new contract.
1st thing we need to do is ask God for forgiveness for not always following the manuscript He gave us to follow. Then we need to ask for forgiveness from our children. Click here to read scriptures on how to raise children.
This is not about mom guilt but restoration.We need to tell them we are sorry for not monitoring our emotions and attitudes and transfering that guilt on to them. They were never meant to carry burdens that belong to us and us alone. As mature adults we are suspose to stay in control at all times, they are watching the way we respond to them and they are processing it. They are watching how we relate to other people. They are watching how we treat our husband. They are watching how you are treating their sibling. They are seeing and hearing what is being displayed in their presence.
We need to be aware and intentional in our parenting skills.
Mattrew 18:6 KJV
But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
2nd, the Bible is our life line. We are to read it often and teach it to our children. It is for all ages, not just for adults. Children deserve to get treated with the upmost respect. They are little people that will grow up to be big people in society. We are to treat them with importance. Being doers of scriptures with them. Loving them, being patient with them. Treating them kindly and discipline them. Tell them when they offended us, and restore that relationship like the Bible instructs us to restore all our relationships. We are to instill godly manners and principles into them.
If we teach them anything opposite of God’s word, we are causing them to sin. Ouch that hurt. I have failed in this area so many times.
Proverbs 22:15 ESV
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
Isaiah 54:13 ESV
All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.
3rd, We need to be doing all we can to make sure we are setting our family up for success. I know it is not always an easy job especially if you work outside the home to keep everything together everyday. My prayer for you is that your husband understands the weight of your responsibility and give you lots of grace if you are struggling in that area however, I can’t stress the importance of scripture in
She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
This scripture weighs on my heart, because idleness can be anything that takes the place of us implementing strategies to be effective in the upkeep of our home and our parenting skills.
Things like talking on the phone, watching TV, scrolling the cell phone, social media, to many obligations outside the home, shopping etc. All of which I am guilty of.
4th, We need to relieve ourselves from so many obligation and prune away things that is keepng us feeling pulled in so many directions, stressed and tired. I don’t know if it’s the human nature that needs to feel like you are accomplishing things by going all the time, but our children are feeling the stress of our busy lives. They are experiencing the brunt of our frustration because we are tired from trying to keep up with the upkeep of our home, running everyone to special classes, sports, running late to an obligation, pressure of school activities, PTO meetings, and home work assignments that needs to be completed. God has never called us to live a life full of stress.
School is about to end, take this time to take a break from all activies and refocus on making your life easier by setting a scedule for yourself and your family. It is ok to only put the kids in one activities for the summer, like camp or seize from all extra curricular activies.
Pray to God and ask him to give you wisdom on how to minister to your family, set an effective schedule for your family. What is God’s will for your family? What is really important? What is draining you? Ask God how to encourage your generation? How to best love each child? How to make each one feel important? How to take care of yourself? How to stop people pleasing so you can be effective in your home and as a parent?
5th, We all need grace, give it to yourself, give it to your husband and give it to your children. Relax and enjoy your family. Don’t try to be a perfect family but a lovely family. Remember we are training our children to be responsible adults who will live in this world with other human beings. What kind of citizens, students, spouses, family members, doctor, lawyers, etc. You want them to be. If we all learned how to love, respond and respect the differences of others in the world, the world would be a better place but first it starts in our home. It starts with how we are relating to our children and how we are training them at home. This is how they will view the world, through the lenses of what was being presented to them at home on a regular basis.
So moms, we have to be filled up with the love of God, we have to be filled up with the word of God, we have to grow mature in our emotions so we can raise emotional intelligent children. We have to teach them about the competitive spirit and the mistreatment and injustice of others. God commands us to love all mankind. Prejudice starts at home. Remember we are commissioned by God to take care of His planet. He is intrusting us with His most precious possessions, His children, they are our future.
Wrong strategies for parenting can destroy a whole nation. Lets get the mind of God on how we can better equip ourselves as parents.
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