Are you tired of telling your kids to make up their bed, pick up their clothes and toys off the floor and clean up behind themselves?
I was tired of talking to my kids and sounding like a broken record. I will be talking to them until they leave my home, this is what were called to do if we hold the Mommy title.
We are called to train our children while we have them at home with us. I watched how hard my mom took care of me and my siblings, her work was not easy, although she made it look easy.
Proverbs 22:6 ESV Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Deuteronomy 11:19 ESV You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
These scriptures are talking about training your children both spiritually as well as naturally or physically.
I watched my mom do everything by herself. She was a stay at home mom. I learned alot from my mom just by watching her, but she never made us do chores. I think back in those days the standard for moms were, if you are a home maker then that was your primary job, to keep the home neat and tidy without incorperating help from the children.
All I remember doing as a young child was going to school, eating a good home cooked meals, having clean clothes, celebrating every holiday, living in a clean home and playing outside with my friends.
In my eyes, my mom was a superwoman. Until this day, I don’t know how she did it. Then again, my mother did have a flip side to her. She never expressed being discontent verbally, but the pressure and responsibility of motherhood/wife showed in the choices she made, of which I won’t go into.
Now that I am a mom, I appreciate all the sacrifices my mom made for our family. While growing up in my parents home, I wished I would’ve helped my mom more. That could’ve made her motherly duties lighter. I wished my parents made me do chores. Don’t get me wrong, we were made to clean as children but only when we absolutely had too. We did not have a daily to do list or set chores in place.
I guess my parents believed we would have plenty of time to clean when we moved out of their house and moved into our own home. They were right! Unless you hire someone to clean your home, your primary job as mom is to keep things clean, organized and tidy.
I believe if we put routines in place for our children, their routines becomes daily habits or rituals. When they become adults they are set up for success because their habits is now a way of lifeq1 and everything will come second nature to them.
Some children are born with the gift of keeping things neat and tidy. Some kids have to be shown how or trained to keep things neat and tidy.
If you are not taught that from birth or trained how to keep things orderly, you will struggle as an adult to keep things organized. I believe I was missing a routine as a child.
I am not naturally organized, I have to intentionally work at being organized. I’ve been around organization all my life. My mom was very organized but I wasn’t trained to be organized. It probably was easier for my mother to do everything herself, but that does not help children when they get older.
In order for us moms to live a beautiful life, we have to be discipline ourselves so we can help our children to become disciplined. I have a confession to make, discipline is something I ran from in my life, but now that I have a big family, it is advantageous to my peace and the success of my family that I am discipline.
I don’t want to be the mom that do everything myself. I want my children to grow up and be able to properly take care of themselves. I know it will relieve a lot of pressure off me to incorperate the help of my family.
Our children wants to feel accomplished. Train them while they are young and they will show you that they are more than capable of rising up to the challenge. Our children love to feel part of the family and giving them jobs to do in your home help them to feel apart.
So I searched for the best chore chart and implemented it right away. I chose a chore chart introduce by homeschool mom, Jady A.
What I love about this chore chart is that it has daily routine plus chores.
It was easy to create and I brought everything from the Dollar Tree. Here is a picture of my children’s chore chart that I created from Jady A chore chart. Please watch her video from beginning to end. She explains the chore chart system in details and shows you how her children implement their chore chart. I’ve created 4 of the same chore charts for each of my children, I will be showing you only one of the chore charts down below.
Another thing I love about this chore chart is that it includes a morning routine and a night routine. The top row is morning routine and the second row is night routine. The third row is for assigned chores.
The “Done!” tabs are for when they have completed a task on thier list. As soon as they are finished completing that task, they put the Done! tab underneath the completed task and move on to the next one until they have finished all of those task for the morning, evening and their chores.
I keep a running tally of all finished tasks and at the end of the week I sometimes reward them with a small token like an outing to the park, zoo, magic house, ice cream, movie, stay up 1 hour later pass bed time and money to buy them something at the store.
I let my children know it is part of their responsibility to contribute to the family unit. I also call our home our little community and tell them the value of keeping their communtity clean and they should not expect a reward, if I give it, then it is a bonus to show my appreciation to them. I also tell them I am preparing them for college, when they get out on their own, and when they start their own family.
Having a chore chart has made my life beautiful and when I fall off, my children reminds me of all the things they have to complete on their chart. It is also an accountablity tool between me and my family.
I would love hear how implement a chore system in your home or if you naturally just let things flow and take care of everything yourself.
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