Mom guilt is real, I think all moms are struggling with this feeling or have struggled with mom guilt at some point in their mommy journey.
We are going to drop the ball, so we might as well face it, we are not perfect.
We are not superwomen. We do not have supernatural magical powers. We can’t save the whole world. We can not be all things, to all people, all of the time.
But what we are, we are moms that love our children and wants the best for ourselves and our family. We are moms who love God and wants to grow in God’s grace, and give that same grace to our family.
Today we are going to ignore those voices that’s telling us, “you are not doing enough, you are messing up your kids life, you are failing them, you are a horrible mother.”
Mom’s have one of the most important jobs in the world. Every human being on the planet evolved from the womb of a woman.
Nothing can be birth in the earth unless it is birth through you.
Your job is very important. Every inventor, creator, doctor, teacher, mom, dad, scientist, business owner came from you.
The opposite is true. Every person that’s full of hate, evil, abuser, psychopath, killer and anyone that’s want to hurt mankind came from you as well.
In order for a family, organization, society, country, neighborhood, church and community to grow, a mom has to be present.
Our roles are so important, God entrusted us with his world! Wow, that is a huge responsiblity. No wonder why we often feel the weight of the world on our shoulders, because it is.
We carry God’s torch. We have been entrusted with His most prized possession.
God gave us the ability to care, to love, to nuture, to build up, to teach, to influence, to communicate, to encourage, to inspire and to motivate.
Psalm 127:3-5 ESV
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.
Your children are your reward from God. We (along side our husbands, if you are married), can get a vision for our children and steer them in their purpose.
Sometimes we need help in doing the jobs God called us to do. You are more than capable of handling the task of running a successful household and family.
We are going to totally erase all mom guilt, let go of the past, and start a new. I am here to help you by giving you 5 strategies that will help you relieve mom guilt.
5 Strategies to Help Moms Relieve Mom Guilt.
1st thing we need to do is ask God for forgiveness for not always following the manuscript He gave us to follow. Then we need to ask for forgiveness from our children. Click here to read scriptures on how to raise children.
This is not about mom guilt but restoration. We need to tell them we are sorry for not monitoring our emotions and attitudes and transfering that guilt on to them.
They were never meant to carry burdens that belong to us and us alone. As mature adults we are suspose to stay in control at all times, they are watching the way we respond to them and they are processing it.
They are watching how we relate to other people. They are watching how we treat our husband. They are watching how you are treating their sibling. They are seeing and hearing what is being displayed in their presence.
We need to be aware and intentional in our parenting skills.
Matthew 18:6 KJV
But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
2nd, the Bible is our life line. We are to read it often and teach it to our children. It is for all ages, not just for adults.
Children deserve to get treated with the upmost respect. They are little people that will grow up to be big people in society.
We are to treat them with importance, by loving them, being patient with them and treat them kindly.
We also should correct ungodly behavior when needed teach them godly manners.
Proverbs 22:15 ESV
Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him.
Isaiah 54:13 ESV
All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children.
3rd, We need to be doing all we can to make sure we are setting our family up for success. I know it is not always an easy job, especially if you work outside the home to keep everything together everyday.
My prayer for you is that you ask your family to help you in the upkeep of your home and that your husband understands the weight of your responsibility and give you lots of grace if you are struggling in that area. However, I can’t stress the importance of scripture in
This scripture weighs on my heart, because idleness can be anything that takes the place of us implementing strategies to be effective in the upkeep of our home and our parenting skills.
Things like talking on the phone, watching TV, scrolling the cell phone, social media, to many obligations outside the home, shopping etc. All of which I am sometimes guilty of.
4th, We need to relieve ourselves from so many obligation and prune away things that is keeping us feeling pulled in so many directions, stressed and tired.
I don’t know if it’s the human nature that needs to feel like we are accomplishing things by being busy all the time, but our children are feeling the stress.
They are experiencing the brunt of our frustration because we are tired from trying to keep up with the upkeep of our home, running everyone to special classes, sports, running late to an obligation, and home work assignments that needs to be completed. God has never called us to live a life full of stress.
Pray to God to give you wisdom on how to minister to your family and set an effective schedule for your days.
What is God’s will for your family? What is really important? What is draining you? Ask God how you are suspose to help your generation? How to best love each child? How to make each one feel important? How to take care of yourself? How to stop people pleasing so you can be effective in your home and as a parent?
5th, We all need grace, give it to yourself, give it to your husband and give it to your children.
Relax and enjoy your family. Don’t try to be a perfect family but a loving family. Remember we are training our children to be responsible adults who will live in this world with other human beings.
What kind of citizen, spouse, family member and worker do you want them to be?
If we all learned how to love, respond and respect the differences of others in the world, the world would be a better place but first it starts in our home.
It starts with how we are relating to our children and how we are training them at home. This is how they will view the world, through the lenses of what was being presented to them at home on a regular basis.
So moms, we have to be filled up with the love of God, we have to be filled up with the word of God, we have to grow maturely in our emotions so we can raise emotional intelligent children.
We have to teach them about mistreatment and injustice of others. God commands us to love all mankind. Prejudice starts at home.
Remember we are commissioned by God to take care of His planet. He is intrusting us with His most precious possessions, His children, they are our future.
Wrong strategies for parenting can destroy a whole nation. Lets get the mind of God on how we can better equip ourselves as parents.
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